Everyone has their own reason for waiting. Here are some of the most prominent benefits. Basically, you do it for yourself and for your own reasons. If you don’t know why you’re abstaining you need to rethink things and make sure you’re doing it for yourself and not just because it was something you were brought up with.

•”Instant Intimate Recall:” This refers to the mind’s natural tendency to recall information from the past when triggered by a reference or memory in the present. Basically, you can be making out with Steve and call out Mike’s name. When you have sex with someone you see them in their most basic element and they see you in yours. There is nothing keeping you from inadvertently flashing back to memories of being with these people – even at the most inopportune times (eg: at dinner with family, cuddling with a new boyfriend/girlfriend).

•Attachment: There is an emotional attachment created with each person you have sex with, something intended to create a serious bond (that is why it is what “consummates” or makes real, a marriage). The more people you have sex with and in turn create an emotional bond with, the easier it gets to break this bond. The person that has sex with 15 people probably isn’t as likely to create the same bond with each of them that the person who has sex with only one other person can, you get it? (more…)